Over the past couple of weeks on two instances I’ve had the unfortunate pleasure of listening to the radio. I say unfortunate because of what I heard. My dismay was made worse by my wife relating what she had heard on another show. What I’m talking about are three independent shows discussing the topic of premarital sex. The target audience for all the shows were adolescents. I was about to say “teenagers” but regrettably the problems are starting at even younger ages these days.
Even though the shows were discussing issues such as sexually transmitted diseases, abortions and other equally wonderful results of illicit sexually activity among our young people, what disturbed me the most were the opinions expressed by the so-called adults on these shows. The questions posed had to do with how to handle the problem of increased sexual activity at even earlier and earlier ages. One person remarked, “It’s not really the kids’ fault because they are so busy these days that they sometimes forget to take condoms.”
On one show where school nurses were being interviewed, the overwhelming sentiment was related to how to get the kids to practice safe sex. After all, we do not want our kids to be catching those evil diseases out there. And I could go on and on here about the various views that were expressed but even as I am writing this I am starting to feel a little nauseated by it all.
In all the “adult” and supposedly “intelligent” discussions not one person ever suggested the most obvious solution to this whole problem. And that is what bothered me the most. You see, if no one suggested it, that clearly means that no one was thinking it. And what’s bad about that is that when I now suggest to you the clear and simple solution to all of this I am afraid that you are going to laugh out loud and call me rude names (not that I am not used to that). Oh well, I supposed I’d better just come out with it. I have a solution that not only costs nothing to implement but works 100% every single time: abstinence.
In all the discussions, the review of statistics, the postulating of various solutions – not one single person ever mentioned abstinence. After all we couldn’t possibly teach our young people to abstain from premarital sex. That would cramp their style. People might label us as old-fashioned. People might start to snicker behind our backs as we did our grocery shopping. Well I guess if you’d rather have your kid catch some terminal or debilitating disease or deal with abortion or adolescent pregnancy – then maybe you’re right. Maybe you’d better just go with the flow. I wouldn’t want to cramp your style – even if it means your child stays healthy, learns responsibility and does what the Word of God says he or she is to do.
I Corinthians 7:1, 2
“Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”
The Bible teaches that even sexually touching the opposite sex is wrong. Any sort of intimate sexual activity is reserved only for the marriage relationship (and might I be so bold as to add that this is marriage between two people of the opposite sex). God’s Word declares that outside of marriage, sex is not an option.
Why didn’t any of the so-called adults on those shows suggest this simple and most effective of all solutions? Not one of them even thought it was an option. Their thinking was that, “Well the kids are going to do it no matter what so let’s just make sure they are protected.” With thinking like that I’d have to say I agree with them – our kids do not stand a chance. But instead, why not be parents that actually care about our kids – especially those of us who claim allegiance to the Bible? Why not take a bolder stand than all those out there who have just given in to the immoral push and pull of society? Why not put the Word of God into the hearts and minds of our kids and give them a real chance of making the right decisions? Why not teach them that no matter what the movies and minds of man say, God is the strength of their lives? If we as Christian parents want our kids to grow up into godly men and women – maybe we should be the same.